February 6, 2014

I get so pissed when I hear my clients struggle with this…

One of the things I love about what I do is the confidence and trust my clients have in me. I don’t take this lightly. As a matter of fact, the other day I was talking to a client who shared the following issue she was having, and I bet many of you are experiencing the same thing.

When she goes out to dinner with friends or family she feels uncomfortable asking too many food questions to the waiter, such as “Does this dish contain gluten?”  She gets embarrassed and feels that people get annoyed by her inquiries.  She doesn’t want to appear disruptive.

Hearing this upset me.  There exists this stigma attached to asking for what you want or need when it comes to food.  I’m sure many of you feel or have felt the same way as my client.  I have too.  Should we suppress our dietary needs for fear of upsetting others?

What if this was life or death? Would we feel differently? Would others be less annoyed?

Well, I’m here to tell you this IS a matter of life or death. Speaking up for our health can be the difference between living a life full of vibrancy and energy and living one feeling run down, bloated, tired and cranky.  Small health-related decisions we make today can have major implications on our lives down the road.


I want you to feel 100% confident when looking out for your health.  So, here’s three streps to help you step into stating what you need to be your healthiest you: [Share this with someone who is having trouble asking for what they need!]

  1. Identify what you need and want (and why) – You may not feel comfortable making a request if you’re unsure of what you want in the first place. Write down your top five needs and wants regarding your health and keep them with you. Let it serve as a reminder of your commitment to your health.

  2. Share these with your friends and family – Let them know that you’re not trying to be difficult.   Sharing with others the thoughts that go into your decisions lets them know that you’re serious and they should support you.

  3. Don’t apologize – When you’re at a restaurant, a friend’s house, or anywhere else you might feel embarrassed to ask for what you need or want, remember that this is very important for you. Remind yourself that it’s a matter of life and death. You are working on a lifelong goal, and those who love and support you won’t judge you. Take a breathe, state your need, and sit back and relax. You don’t need to say more, you don’t need to explain anything. Just live in the space of what you know works and feels best for you and your body.

Have you had to overcome your fear of asking for what you want? Let us know how you did it in the comments below!

Get My Go-To Guide
To Journaling

Sign up now to get the behind the scenes how-to of my personal journaling practice, complete with rituals and prompts that will keep you grounded and strengthen your gut intuition in no time.